Finding A Happy Medium

blogI’ve been a critic of the traditional 12 recovery system in the past, yet no one is more grateful than I, when my daughter is swept up from a potentially dangerous situation, and delivered to to a luxury ocean view room, with meds to make her detox more comfortable, as well as structure and security.                                                                                                     mixedbag

I have come to realize that blending the 12 step approach with a little harm reduction, soft love (as opposed to tough love), astrology, homeopathy, Sai Sanjeevini healing system, radionics, family integration, and acceptance, is an amazing formula for addict support.

pillsWhen it comes to meds- I understand and even support the use of allopathic prescriptions, but when meds are over prescribed and under managed, Houston, we have a problem.

I also complain about the 30 day set up. Who completes recovery in 30 days? Get my point?                                                                                   girl16

My biggest complaint is the ‘kick-out upon relapse’. Girls ending up on street corners with bags of luggage, bulky duffel bags, and usually some plastic laundry basket, calling Mom’s- both in tears. Relapse is more often than not, a part of recovery, yet no contingency is made for it.

A little harm reduction can go a long way. Why not teach less damaging behavior if the addict can’t quite grasp the full sobriety gig?

My gripe is not industry specific- we see ‘profits over people’ from small home businesses to corporations, to governments, we see over medicating take place in the mental hospitals, and patient dumping of the elderly, so please, facilities and recovery support folks,





5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rosemary
    Sep 27, 2014 @ 22:02:16

    I don’t know where you are getting your information from. Kick out upon relapse, 30 day recovery, luxury ocean view room, and especially addict can’t quite grasp the full sobriety gig? That isn’t the norm around here. Insurances won’t give you 30 days. And there is no half sobriety gig. Either you are sober or you are not sober. I have never heard of a true addict being able to be half sober……it’s all or nothing. I really don’t understand what your gripe is. You can’t group all those issues in one gender specific category saying that there is a happy medium for everything.

    • The Pendulist
      Sep 28, 2014 @ 00:49:55

      I get my information from living it, sister. Because you are an all or nothing person, you probably get mostly nothing. If you cant grasp my drift, it probably wasn’t meant for you.


  2. Tara
    Sep 28, 2014 @ 03:55:28

    I am pretty sure Rosemary was never kicked out of rehab for relapsing- pretty sure.

  3. Rosemary
    Sep 28, 2014 @ 05:44:56

    I live it every day. One of my daughters lives it every day. And my 16 year old grandson is trying to be sober with the help of all that is available to him. I used your words to question the picture you painted which came across as a little flippant for such a sensitive topic. Your response was unprofessional and rude for someone who is supposed to be empowering.

    • The Pendulist
      Sep 28, 2014 @ 15:08:25

      I am sorry for your struggles. Let me clarify- I do not empower- I offer tools for others to become empowered. I have lived through 8 years of heroin addiction with my daughter, so excuse me if I don’t seem to be in a panic anymore. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different
      result. Perhaps if there is nothing behind door A, try door B. I’m just sayin’.